You Only Need Players, If You Play “Games”……


Friends, please pull up a seat for this discussion, it’s about to get good! For some of you, please watch your toes……so they don’t get stepped on. Shall we begin!

I would like to say this is for all my single folks, but unfortunately, this topic applies to some of the married folks among us. I’m not passing judgement, that’s going to be between each man, each woman and their God.  10 years ago when I married, I thought I was putting away all the “drama” of dating as I was planning to marry until death did us part. However, my now, ex-husband, did not put away his “player” card when he said I do and he continued to live life as a single, married man. Some of you will catch that on your drive home…….

I can remember confiding in a colleague during the “storm” in my marriage more than 5 years ago and I disclosed to my colleague that I was planning to divorce my husband because he was having numerous affairs. My colleague’s response may surprise you. My colleague asked me why would I do such a thing because they were aware of many married folks that were committing adultery and they weren’t divorcing because of it. WHOA!!!! SAY WHAT!!!! I had to step back and question why I was confiding in this person and then I stopped doing so.

Friends, after my divorce, I realized there was some truth to what my colleague had indicated. I began to encounter some folks that were strictly playing games when it came to relationships. They said what they didn’t mean and they didn’t mean what they said. Now, I’m not talking about everyone but I’m talking about some folks. Some of you are nodding along as you are reading this blog with your lips twisted to one side because you know exactly what I’m talking about. These folks are known as “players”.

Some folks get an adrenaline rush out of playing games.  Not all folks, but some folks thrive off playing games and how they can push the buttons of others to get a reaction out of them. The lies they tell others, the inconsistent behavior they display to others, and their inability to develop a foundation with others based on trust and honesty, gives some folks a big “kick”. 

I know some of you are reading this blog and you are getting tired just thinking about the “drama” that accompanies playing games. That’s right friends, playing games and drama generally hang out with one another. They like the company of each other. So if you don’t like drama, my suggestion is to avoid folks playing games.

So how do I identify folks playing games? I’m so glad you asked! As the “Coach”, I can spot “players” a mile away! If you are wondering how you can pinpoint these folks too, I will tell you. Close your ears and open your eyes. Some folks love to talk about what they “are”, but never-mind what these folks say, instead watch what these folks do and before long they will show you who they are. As we all know, actions speak much louder than words.

Some folks can talk, talk, talk, talk until the cows come home, I’m a country girl, from North Carolina, so please trust me when I tell you the cows eventually do come home. My point is that people can talk about who they are endlessly, but if their actions are not consistent with their words, their words are worthless.

Ask yourself do you hold others accountable to ensure their actions align with their words or do you allow players to play?#WisdomFromTheCoach

 Sharon D. Meadows is a Certified Professional Transformation Coach and the Author of the Amazon Best – Seller, Journey to A New You—A Transformational Guide to Discovering Your Inner Strengths!

Please connect with Sharon, to ask her what’s the next step to get you on the Journey to a New You, Contact Me! #LetsTalk

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Posted on April 14th, by sdmeadows in Coaching.

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