When The “Weaker” Vessel Ain’t Weak– #StrongWomen
Friends, now before we get started, let me begin by saying that I am NOT about to write a blog about being physically strong. Personally, I can’t open a jar of spaghetti, raise a window or perform any heavy lifting without assistance. Yet, I consider myself to be a strong woman. So what makes me strong if I can do none of the above without assistance? I’m so glad you asked! You see, friends, my strength is not visible to the eye, and I don’t have big bulging muscles, instead my strength is on the inside. #InnerStrength
The bible tells us in 1 Peter 3:7, that the woman is the weaker vessel and I am sure that we can all agree that most women are weaker than men physically. But what about women that possess inner strength, are those women weak? No, of course not, they are not weak and this can possibly create problems for some men.
Friends, I can’t speak on behalf of every strong woman, I can only share my own personal experience. 11 years ago when I decided to get married, I had no clue of the impact that my “inner strength” would have on my marriage. Why did me being strong impact my relationship so much? The mate that I chose had very little inner strength. He solved very few problems on his own and instead would turn to his mother to resolve all of his issues. Yes, I married a momma’s boy…I know what you are thinking, a strong woman and a momma’s boy, doomed from the start!
Our values were not consistent, I grew up depending only on God and myself to make things happen. My father was absent most of my life, and my mother, emotionally detached….which left little room for me to be needy or clingy for anything. I learned very quickly if I wanted something that I needed to go for it. If I fell, I knew how to dust myself off and to keep it moving as no one was coming to rescue me. Throughout my life, as time passed, I became more and more self-sufficient and eventually I matured into becoming a woman that knew how to handle her own.
Fast-forward from childhood into 11 years ago when I decided to marry. I entered into the marriage as the owner of a 2-story home, as well as an E-Class Mercedes, and I had financial resources to take care of myself. My (ex)husband on the other hand was in a totally different position than myself. He didn’t own anything…no home, no car, no resources. He entered into the marriage simply with the clothes on his back.
As we began to grow as a couple, we grew further and further apart. He began to have issues with the home that I owned before I met him and he insisted that we sell it to buy one together. Not a bad idea, and I didn’t oppose it. But when we purchased the new home I was the only one that could go on the mortgage loan as his credit was way below par. Not the outcome that he was hoping for.
Friends, at the end of the day, I was established enough to be able to take care of myself when I entered into the marriage. My (ex)husband was not as he had relied on his mother the majority of his life for making all of his decisions and he was not equipped or capable of making decisions as a leader. He became more and more resentful toward me and he began to increase the level of abuse that I was being subjected too. After 7 years of enduring intentional abuse that was being inflicted to “break” me down, I made a conscious decision to escape the situation and I divorced him. The moral of the story, a woman is the weaker vessel but that does not mean that she is weak.
Ladies, ask yourself, are you willing to find the right mate that is open to accepting your inner strength instead of tearing you down to make you weak?
Sharon D. Meadows is a Certified Professional Transformation Coach and the Author of the Amazon Best – Seller, Journey to A New You—A Transformational Guide to Discovering Your Inner Strengths!
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