When The Best Company That You Keep, Is Your Own– #LoveYourself
Friends, I have spent time in the company of many amazing people, but the best company that I have ever enjoyed has been my own. Now, I haven’t always thought this way but as I have become older and wiser I have learned the importance of loving myself. I enjoy my own company, I enjoy time alone with myself and I enjoy the way that I treat me!
In the past, when I was younger, I didn’t understand how important it was to love myself. You see, I would allow other people to treat me badly, because I was looking for their approval and love. Come on now, if we are honest, we all have been there.
When people intentionally treat you badly, there is a reason, in my experience that reason is because they do not value or appreciate you. Sometimes people will treat you badly, to lower your self-esteem and your worth. Yes, dear friends, there are people out in the world that want to make you feel worthless….but it has nothing to do with your value or your worth. In fact, it has more to do with their insecurities about themselves.
May I share a personal story with you? Many years ago, I met a gentleman and we began to date. Friends, this man was so emotionally abusive, when I reflect on the experience, I know for a fact, I must have been vulnerable at that time to endure such abuse for over 2 years.
He would play games with me mentally, he would lie, he would mistreat me, it was a very bad situation. There were many other things that I don’t care to recall that he would also do to me. So how did I manage to end it?
One day, I replayed every mean, inconsiderate, and abusive thing that this man had ever done to me. While doing so, I realized that he did not value or appreciate me as a person or a friend. I was ALWAYS kind and considerate and loving toward him and he returned none of those things to me. I was 26 years old at the time and I made a commitment to myself to no longer allow myself to be treated badly by this young man. I got the courage to walk away. When I walked away, he was so shocked and disoriented by my decision that he got fired from work the same day. I won’t go into the details of what happened to him at work because it’s not important to this story.
Within the following weeks, he would appear unannounced in my driveway, crying, begging and pleading for me not to walk away. Friends, I never kick a man when he is down. I told the young man, that we could no longer date, but I would be a good friend to him in his down season and I kept my word. He was unemployed for several months as he searched for a new job. And I was there for him, I even offered to assist him with his expenses until he could find new employment. But I never allowed him access into my life to abuse me, mistreat me or tear me down ever again. I drew my line in the sand because I was now aware of my worth!
Ask yourself do you allow others to mistreat, abuse, and misuse you, or do you demand the respect that you deserve even if it means being alone? #KnowYourWorth #YouAreValuable
Sharon D. Meadows is a Certified Professional Transformation Coach and the Author of the Amazon Best – Seller, Journey to A New You—A Transformational Guide to Discovering Your Inner Strengths!
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