Comfortable In My Own Skin & Loving It– In Good Company!


Friends, I have spent the last few days in the beautiful city of New Orleans, LA and it’s been amazing! I decided to get away for a little “me” time ,so I booked a flight and was on my way, solo! During my time in New Orleans, I have enjoyed some great entertainment, live music, and delicious food, and the oysters….oh, my! But the most pleasure that I have experienced thus far has been the company that I have been keeping, alone with myself!

It has taken me a long time to arrive at this place, of being comfortable in my own skin. A few years ago, being alone was very scary to me, so scary that I made a decision to marry a man that I only knew for a few weeks, simply because he asked to marry me. Friends, yes, I confess, I was in a desperate place because I was not comfortable with being alone. The end result, I suffered much emotional, mental and verbal abuse during the “7″ marriage and I was extremely depressed. Being alone didn’t look so bad after all. 

Through this experience, I realized that another person did not have the power to make me happy. Joy and happiness come from within. Joy and happiness are a choice that one must make and today, I make the choice to be joyful and happy in my singleness!

Now friends, I know being alone may seem scary, I have been there, I know it’s scary. But being single is not about being alone. It’s about being comfortable with yourself, knowing who you are and loving yourself. The more I grew to love myself, the more I began to enjoy my own company. I began to appreciate the time that I had alone that I could sit in silence and reflect on myself within. When we can connect with who we are internally, we can examine the changes that we need to make that will allow us to grow and develop into better people. The more time that you spend alone with yourself, the less time you will spend wondering “who am I”, because when you spend time alone with someone, you will get to intimately know who they are, yourself included.

So how did I get to this place, being comfortable in my own skin? I’m so glad you asked! I began the journey by not worrying about what others think of me. My peace of mind became my focus and not what others had on their mind about me. I began doing things that I enjoy doing like taking walks with myself, working out alone, going to my favorite restaurant and ordering what I wanted. Even if it were a “cheat” food, it was allowed.

The more I spend time alone, the more I realize how amazing I am and I don’t allow past misuse and abuse, or past rejection, or past pain to define how I feel about myself. When I spend time alone, I am kind to myself. I am kind with the thoughts that I allow to flow through my mind. I am kind with my feelings and I don’t beat myself up over past mistakes that I have made. Instead, I use past mistakes as a learning experience to make better decisions in the future. I appreciate the ability to enjoy a peaceful life and spend my time in good company, alone with myself!

If you are single, ask yourself,  are you comfortable in your own skin to love and appreciate this time to get to know yourself better? #KnowWhoYouAre #InGoodCompany 

Sharon D. Meadows is a Certified Professional Transformation Coach and the Author of the Amazon Best – Seller, Journey to A New You—A Transformational Guide to Discovering Your Inner Strengths!

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Posted on July 6th, by sdmeadows in Coaching.

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