“Self-Doubt”– The Killer of All Dreams……


Friends, we all know a dream killer. Dream killers may be in our family, it may be a close friend, a colleague, a spouse, our kids, or even a total stranger. That’s OK, I have good news about dream killers. Don’t get upset or even discouraged by a dream killer. Dream killers are necessary to help you to achieve your dreams. Your defense against dream killers– belief in yourself.

May I share a personal story with you? Your friend, Sharon D. Meadows has experienced my fair share of dream killers. So I am speaking from experience when I tell you that having dream killers around is actually a good thing.

Prior to resigning from Corporate America two years ago, to pursue a “new” dream, I spent 20 years in the Information Technology industry. Now I know, I don’t look like your average “I.T” geek. Yet, I was able to enjoy  a very comfortable lifestyle during my 20 years in this field. Friends, I didn’t have a great deal of support when I made the decision to pursue a career as a Computer Programmer. I mean after all, it was the mid 1990′s and computers were just becoming popular and I am a black female. Black females were not dominating the I.T industry, I’m just being real with you.

Yet, I made the decision while sitting across from my career counselor in college. During that semester, I declared my major as Management Information Systems (M.I.S) and I enrolled in my first “programming” courses. Very early into the semester, we lost many students along the way. The programming classes were equivalent to taking a foreign language, essentially I was learning a new way of communicating– computer language. The nights in the computer lab were long and stressful, often times I was in the lab for 24 – 48 hours straight with no break. Several students decided the demands were too great and they dropped it. I was determined that I could do it and I was determined to stick with it, you see I believed in myself.

All was going good, that is until I encountered…the dream killer! The dream killer wasn’t wearing all black or a mask. He wasn’t even carrying a knife. he was carrying a brief case. My dream killer was one of my professors in the M.I.S department. As a matter of fact he was the head of the department. He pulled me to the side one day and looked me in my eyes and said, “I wouldn’t set my hopes on being a computer programmer, if I were you.” I looked at him confused and I asked, “why not?” With a straight face, he said, “it’s going to be impossible for you to get a job as a programmer, my suggestion is that you consider working on the help desk”.

WHOA! Friends, now there is nothing at all wrong with working on the help desk but my college professor had just taken a stab at my dream of being a computer programmer….but he wasn’t successful at killing the dream. Now don’t get me wrong, he gave me a good blow to my self-esteem. But I began to allow his doubt in my abilities to act as a catalyst to propel me to where I needed to be. Every single time I spent long nights in the computer lab and I wanted to give up and there were many times, I would think about the words of my professor. I would hear his voice telling me that I couldn’t do it and I would tell myself, Sharon D. Meadows, YOU CAN DO IT!

Friends, I graduated on time, with a B.S degree in M.I.S and I received a job offer the fall semester of my Senior year, several months before I even gradated. I went on to work for Wachovia Corporation immediately after graduation, my job title, “COMPUTER PROGRAMMER.” From there I went on to enjoy a very successful career in an industry doing what someone told me I couldn’t do. I was able to achieve my dream simply because I BELIEVED in ME!

Ask yourself are you willing to believe in yourself to make your dreams a reality even if no one else believes in you? #YOUCANDOIT

Sharon D. Meadows is a Certified Professional Transformation Coach and the Author of the Amazon Best – Seller, Journey to A New You—A Transformational Guide to Discovering Your Inner Strengths!

Please connect with Sharon, to ask her what’s the next step to get you on the Journey to a New You, Contact Me! #LetsTalk

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Posted on June 13th, by sdmeadows in Coaching.

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