Overcoming Emotional Pain– “The Healing Process”


Friends, I have been marinating this blog discussion for a few days. I wanted to give you something to think about if you are dealing with any type of emotional pain. Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. That sounds good but tell that to the husband that just lost his wife unexpectedly, or the father that only had cancer for 30 days before he transitioned and left grieving children behind, or the young couple that desperately wants a baby and just learned of a miscarriage, or the mother that buried a small child, that is gone too soon. These are all real life situations that I have either experienced or have been closely connected  to someone else that experienced it. Emotional pain is real and it will bring your life to a screeching halt. Emotional pain can even cause the most hopeful person to lose hope and give up.

I received a call from a friend over the weekend and she shared some news with me that hurt me to my heart. She recently experienced the loss of a close friend. Her friend suffered the loss of a child and the emotional pain was far to great to endure and she decided to end it all, by taking her own life. Now I know some of you may not be able to understand why someone would take their own life. Perhaps you have never felt pain so great that you wanted to end it all. Be thankful to God that you have never been there. But friends I have been there. May I share a personal experience with you?

Four years ago, I was in the same situation. My 6 year old daughter suffered a severe asthma attack and after 3 days of fighting for her life at Texas Children’s Hospital, she passed away. Imagine, me, as a mother watching my 6 year old daughter riding her bicycle in the cul-de-sac while joyfully playing and then 24 hours later on a ventilator, barely holding on. Within the first few months after she passed, ending it all crossed my mind several times. I had never felt such emotional pain in my life and it was overwhelming.

One evening, as I lay on my living room floor, crying, curled in the fetal position, I contemplated how I could end it all to end the emotional pain. I was ready to give up.  I had lost hope. And then I heard God speak to me. He said, “Sharon, do you trust me?” Friends, I was faced with a tough decision, having to determine if I trusted God or not. After-all, I had just suffered the most tragic loss that anyone can experience in life, as a mother, and God was asking me if I trust him.

I didn’t know if I trusted God or not at that time, but here is what I do know. I told God if he wanted me to trust him, I needed him to heal me and take away the “suffering” that I was experiencing. You see friends, I have another daughter that was even younger than my daughter that passed away. In order for me to take care of her I knew that God was going to have to step in and heal the hole that was in my heart.

It’s been four years since my beautiful angel Jaylyn passed away. The emotional pain, is still there, but the suffering that once made me want to take my own life is no longer there. I imagine the hole in my heart will always be there but my heart is no longer bleeding. I have learned to be grateful for all that God has blessed me with. When dealing with emotional pain, the healing process is a journey, and for some it may be a long, long journey, and that’s OK, but you must take the first step toward healing by moving forward to end the suffering. We can’t avoid emotional pain in life, but we can move beyond the pain to live life once again. #TheHealingProcess

Ask yourself, do you trust God to heal you from your emotional pain to make you whole again? #SufferingDoesEnd #DontGiveUp #DontLoseHope #ChooseToLive

Sharon D. Meadows is a Certified Professional Transformation Coach and the Author of the Amazon Best – Seller, Journey to A New You—A Transformational Guide to Discovering Your Inner Strengths!

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Posted on July 20th, by sdmeadows in Coaching.

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