Losing Reflection While Gaining Perspective– Discovering Who You Are…….


Friends, I have been contemplating the content for this blog for several days. My hope is that this blog will help someone to move forward in life and get “unstuck”.  You see for some people, being stuck is a result of not being able to recognize the reflection that they see in the mirror. So what do you do when you find yourself in this situation? My suggestion, is to lose the reflection to gain perspective.

How many times have you found yourself looking in the mirror and then asking the question, WHO AM I? I know I’m not the only one that has experienced this….am I? Of course not! Often times when our life under-goes transition we may not recognize the person that we see when the transition is complete.

May I share a personal experience with you? Exactly 4 years ago this month, I found myself looking in the mirror and unable to recognize the person looking back at me. You see , 4 years ago I experienced a divorce after more than 7 years of marriage. Although, I was the one that requested the divorce and even pushed for it, I still struggled with moving forward afterwards. Now don’t get me wrong, I DID NOT want to remain in the marriage that I was in. Nor was I harboring any romantic feelings for my ex-husband, far from it. And because of his betrayal, I actually wanted to get as far away from him as possible. So why was I stuck? I was stuck because I didn’t know who I was once I was no longer a “wife”.

For years I had longed to be married. Since I was a young girl, I had dreamed of being able to carry the “title” of Mrs. “Such-N-Such” and now that it was over, I didn’t really know who I was. It wasn’t until I was able to look in the mirror beyond the reflection of a married woman to gain the perspective that my reality had changed. I was now a divorced woman that was starting over and rebuilding a new life, as a single woman. It was as simple as that. Friends, in my opinion, the key to losing reflection to gain perspective is acceptance.

Gaining perspective through acceptance, means that you are willing to be OK with your current situation so that you can move forward in it. Your current situation may not be the picture that you dreamed about, it may not be the picture you would have drawn for yourself, it may not even be the picture that you want but guess what, it’s the one that you have. The sooner that you come to terms with accepting the “what is” you can then begin to make progress in moving foward to paint around the picture to make it more of what you desire.

Transition in life is difficult when its planned as well as when it’s unplanned as no one likes to make sudden changes in life. But change is constant and through change we are able to grow and develop and to become better people. No matter what transitions you have experienced in life, just know that you have the ability to embrace change in your life and to live a life of an abundance of peace and joy. But peace and joy won’t come easy to you in most cases and you will have to work to achieve them, but peace and joy are possible.

Ask yourself are you willing to move beyond the reflection of what you recognize to accept that which you don’t recognize so that you can begin to paint a new picture! #LoveYourLife #ChooseToLive

Sharon D. Meadows is a Certified Professional Transformation Coach and the Author of the Amazon Best – Seller, Journey to A New You—A Transformational Guide to Discovering Your Inner Strengths!

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Posted on March 12th, by sdmeadows in Coaching.

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