“Issues” from Your Past– Resolve Them Or Die With Them…..

Friends, let me start by saying, “WE” all have some type of issues, I think it’s safe to agree on that for everyone across the board. If you think you don’t have “some” type of issues, then please tell me why are you dealing with some of the challenges that you are dealing with in your life? It ain’t always others that are causing problems, some problems are self-inflicted and it’s because we haven’t resolved some of our issues from our past.

May I share a personal experience with you? One of my personal issues from my past was related to me having “daddy” issues. You see my father, was not involved in my life and as a child, I grew up having very little interaction with him. I desired to have a close relationship with my father, after-all, what little girl doesn’t long for a close relationship with her father. But my father, had his own issues and his unresolved issues contributed to the lack of his presence in my life.

Over my childhood years, I became extremely bitter, angry and resentful toward my father for not playing an active role in my life and when I turned 15 years old, I decided to completely remove him from my life. I felt as though, he didn’t want to be in my life and I ceased all communication with him. The last time I saw my father was at the age of 17 years old, during my freshmen year in college. My mother and grandmother had just helped me to purchase a new car, a promise that he made to me but he never kept it. That day as I were driving the car home, after leaving the dealership, I found myself helpless, at a 4 way intersection, nearby my home. I was stuck at a stop sign, it was a manual transmission. I was trying hard to gracefully change gears to get off the hill to be on my way down the street. But I kept stalling, no matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t get the car to go.

I had my window down and I heard someone say, “baby, girl, let me help you.” It was my father, he was at the store across the street from the 4-way intersection, where I was struggling to move from. He walked over to help me. My father placed his hand inside of the window and on the top of my left knee and he instructed me that when he touched my knee, he wanted me to let up off the clutch gently and give the car a little gas with the other foot. The car choked a few times, and it cut off, but my father was patient and he kept instructing me as to what I needed to do to move forward and not remain stuck on the the top of the hill.

My father patiently, guided me step by step on what I was doing wrong and on the last attempt, the car took off and I was on my way. I was afraid to stop again once I took off, so I kept going, while looking back at him smiling in my side-view mirror and waving, as I yelled, “thank you so much!” He smiled and waved back at me, with a proud look on his face.  I watched my father standing in the middle of the street watching me drive away, waving at me, until he disappeared from my side-view mirror. That was the last time that I saw my father alive. The next time I saw him was 3 years later, in a casket at the funeral home, dead at the age of 44 years old from a massive heart attack.

For years, I struggled with unresolved “daddy” issues from my past until I made a commitment to resolve them. I no longer wanted to live with the issues and I wanted to be set free and today, I am free from issues that used to haunt me and I now have peace. #LivingInPeace

Ask yourself, are you committed to resolving issues from your past that are holding you back from living the life that God intends for you to live or are you going to die with them? #LoveYourself #LoveYourLife #ResolvedIssues #SetFree 

Sharon D. Meadows is a Certified Professional Transformation Coach and the Author of the Amazon Best – Seller, Journey to A New You—A Transformational Guide to Discovering Your Inner Strengths!

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Posted on December 13th, by sdmeadows in Coaching.

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